Hi Erica, thank you so much for being part of our Motherhood Project.
Let’s start from the beginning. Can you share with us your journey into motherhood?
I have always wanted a family and to be a mom. When Mike and I got married in October 2004, we were excited to start a family! In December 2004, we got the exciting news that I was pregnant! We were shocked, nervous, and thrilled! But just a few weeks later, we were saddened by the loss of that pregnancy. That started us on a long journey of infertility and more loss. For the next 3 years we visited doctors, took medicine, had acupuncture, and cried as we lost 3 more pregnancies. It was heart breaking. Just as we were about to give up, in July of 2007, we found out I was pregnant for the 5th time! With a very cautious heart, we began visiting the doctor to see if this pregnancy would be the one to stick. A couple months later, we finally began to feel confident that we would become parents! Those three years were very difficult but we learned to be patient, to lean on each other for support, and lean into God and know He had a plan all along.
Can you share with us one of the first memories you have as a mommy?
Gosh, this is a tough one. Those first few weeks after having our first son is such a blur! What I remember most was being up in the middle of the night rocking him to sleep (which took forever by the way), looking at his cute little face and just thinking, “I can’t believe I get to be his mom!”
Motherhood can be tough in the beginning. What was your biggest struggle and how did you overcome it?
Nobody tells you how hard it really is! Lack of sleep, changes in my body, learning how to balance being a mom and a wife, and working a full-time job were just part of the struggle! But probably the biggest struggle was learning to filter out all of the different advice that everybody around me suddenly seemed inclined to give me. Sure some of it was good, really good. And some of it just confused me and made me feel bad about what I was doing. So one day as I was talking to a friend and she said “What’s working for you?” That simple question helped me so much! It’s like that old saying “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” So moving forward, if somebody said I should do something differently, I’d think about how that thing was working for me. If it was already working, I’d filter it out and move on with my life!
I truly admire the way you go about motherhood. You seem like you are a very sweet, understanding and engaged mother even though you run a successful business and work full time. How do you manage motherhood and career so well?
Honestly, an incredibly supportive husband, help from friends, our church family, prayer, and a lot of bumps in road! And trust me, it’s not always pretty! I apologize to my husband and kids on a regular basis. We learn from our mistakes and try to do better next time!
Do you have any advice for those moms (like me) who feel overwhelmed by both, having a career and being an engaged mother?
First, be kind to yourself! Make time for yourself so you can recharge and be present as a wife and mom when you need to be. Find some women who will support you, listen to you, be there for you, and love you hard. Remember you aren’t perfect and you are doing a fantastic job!
Thank you so much for your time Erica, it was a pleasure talking to you today and capturing the love between you and your beautiful boys. Before we leave, can you share with us what your favorite activity is to bond with your kids?
I love to take my boys hiking. They may not love it all the time but it really gives us unplugged time to chat and connect. It also lets them discover that they are capable of more than they think they are and have a feeling of accomplishment.